Sometimes, you can't decide which moral or saying is correct and which is not.
Usually, this happens, when the same topic is addressed differently.
For eg, take these sayings about people close to you, but not near you.
Distance makes the heart go fonder.
Out of sight is out of mind.
Say, you are with a person (friend/spouse/family/kids - anyone close to you) for sometime, but then separate. The separation can be temporary (going for a short trip, education, meetings etc) or permanent (changed companies, shifted to a different place etc).
Sometimes, the first holds good. You are so used to that person, that a brief separation puts things into perspective. You miss their presence and their importance in your life.
But sometimes, its the latter. You don't miss them nor do you feel a void without them around you. This does create panic in your mind - do you not love them? Am I a bad person for feeling like this? Not necessarily!
It might just be that you are more practical then you thought you were or that you and that person is happy in the individual space that you have created by being apart.
I think the 2 sayings are too vague and might work for some persons or some point in time but not necessarily otherwise.
What it usually is, as I have observed, is that, distance makes people forget each other, because you are not a part of each other's lives, you do remember them and talk to and about them occasionally, but you get on with life. So does the other.
But when you meet again, its like nothing had ever changed.
Ok then, I think I am done rambling.
Usually, this happens, when the same topic is addressed differently.
For eg, take these sayings about people close to you, but not near you.
Distance makes the heart go fonder.
Out of sight is out of mind.
Say, you are with a person (friend/spouse/family/kids - anyone close to you) for sometime, but then separate. The separation can be temporary (going for a short trip, education, meetings etc) or permanent (changed companies, shifted to a different place etc).
Sometimes, the first holds good. You are so used to that person, that a brief separation puts things into perspective. You miss their presence and their importance in your life.
But sometimes, its the latter. You don't miss them nor do you feel a void without them around you. This does create panic in your mind - do you not love them? Am I a bad person for feeling like this? Not necessarily!
It might just be that you are more practical then you thought you were or that you and that person is happy in the individual space that you have created by being apart.
I think the 2 sayings are too vague and might work for some persons or some point in time but not necessarily otherwise.
What it usually is, as I have observed, is that, distance makes people forget each other, because you are not a part of each other's lives, you do remember them and talk to and about them occasionally, but you get on with life. So does the other.
But when you meet again, its like nothing had ever changed.
Ok then, I think I am done rambling.
